Talking about Death and Dying discussed by MW Funeral Directors
Talking about death and dying is a really difficult conversation to have with your loved ones, however, it is a very important one. Our article talks about why it is so important, why people don’t, the things that need to be discussed and what can happen if you don’t talk about it.
Why is it so important talking about death and dying?
It’s a subject we all want to avoid talking about, however, it is such an important one. You probably know in your mind what you want to happen when you pass away but actually taking the time to talk about it often doesn’t happen and can cause upset and disagreements when you have passed.
The first thing you should think and talk about is if you want to be cremated or buried. Some people find this really difficult to even think about but its better that you decide than your loved ones having to make the decision when you have passed away.
Some people prefer the thought of being buried with nature or maybe next to other family members and some people prefer the thought of cremation so their ashes can stay with their loved ones or be scattered in a place that they loved when they have passed. There really is no right or wrong decision and it is down to personal choice.
If you take the time to talk about this with your loved ones then it saves them a difficult decision when the time comes. There really is nothing worse than trying to cope with the passing of a loved one and having to make these sorts of decisions and worrying it may not have been what they wanted, so the easiest thing to do is talk about it and make your wishes known.
Arranging a Memorial for a Loved One – Ideas and Information
What is a Memorial?
A memorial can be an object which serves as a focus for the memory of something, normally to remember a deceased person, an event in history or an event in someone’s life. Memorials can be landmark objects, sculptures, statues, Trees, fountains, benches or parks, the list is endless.
The most common memorial that people think of is a headstone at a grave, memorial plaque or memorial service.
War memorials are also common, remembering those who have fought and died in wars across the world.
Online memorials are now being created using the internet on websites and social media which allows access to a person or event to anyone in the world who wants to search for it.
Sometimes when a person dies a memorial gift may be given to the family as a tribute to the person who has passed and a mark of respect. Families often request that a memorial gift of money is given to a designated charity that is close to your heart and their life as a legacy for them, this is often requested instead of funeral or memorial service flowers.
Often a tree is planed in memory of a person and this happens at woodland cemeteries where peoples loved ones are buried.
Choosing Funeral Readings explained by MW Funeral Directors
When you lose a loved one as well as dealing with your devastating grief you also have the overwhelming task of arranging a personal funeral or memorial service for them. Many people choose Funeral Readings as part of their loved one’s eulogy or service which can be a religious or non-religious reading. There are so many things to think about and organise when you have lost someone you love and you need people around you that will support and guide you through this time in your life. Choosing funeral readings is something that your family, friends or funeral director can support you with.
Funeral readings offer us a way to express our feelings about the loss of a loved one. They are used during funerals, memorials services, and other celebrations to honour and remember the deceased, talk about memories and offer comfort to those who are attending the funeral.
What is a Eulogy?
A Eulogy is a speech or piece of writing that praises someone and is a tribute to someone who has just died. A Eulogy can be written by a loved one and include religious or non-religious readings, poems, music and photos and incorporate a religious or non-religious reading.
Anyone can conduct a non-religious service, including family or friends, or you can choose to use a non-religious celebrant. A funeral celebrant will meet with you to learn about your loved one, their loves, their life and memorable stories. They can support you choose the music, poetry and readings which will help to personalise their funeral service. Non-religious funerals are often referred to as a secular service. They are a personal ceremony, remembering and celebrating the life of the person who has passed without any reference to any religion. The service can include readings, quotes from a book, film or song they loved or music that may have been chosen by loved ones or specified in the deceased’s final wishes, People often share something that their loved one wrote, such as a letter or email.
Religious Funerals celebrate the deceased in a way that their beliefs and religion depicts. Every religions funeral traditions are different and celebrate and remember the life of a loved one in their own special way. Readings, Psalms and passages can be helpful for mourners and offer hope that the deceased has gone to a better place. Your clergy and funeral director can assist you with ideas to shape the funeral service. A religious funeral is about remembering and celebrating the life of the person who has passed away using readings, quotes from a book, film or song they loved, or music that has been chosen by loved ones, or that was specified in the deceased’s final wishes. You can also share something that your loved one wrote, maybe a letter, email or message.
What are Funeral Readings?
Funeral readings are something that is read out at a funeral that may remember the person who has passed away or they can be religious readings.
Choosing meaningful funeral readings and reflections is the final way to remember a loved one, through celebrating the things they most loved in life while providing solace to the grieving family.
It is really difficult to find the right words to express your feelings of loss and to remember your loved one at such a difficult time in your life.
Start by thinking about what they loved doing, their family, their personality, their career, their strengths and the special qualities that they showed during their life. Write things down as you remember them and take some quiet time to reflect and remember their life and your time together. This is difficult at a time when you are grieving and busy with organising everything. Ask friends and family to sit with you and talk about them together. As you start writing it will get easier but don’t put too much pressure on yourself as this will prevent you from thinking about the good things you want to include in the reading.
Don’t feel you have to be the one that reads your eulogy, poems or readings that you have chosen as this is a really difficult thing to do. Ask family and friends to support you with these things or if you want to do it yourself then always have someone prepared and ready to take over if you need them to.
Look on the internet for funeral readings, poems and examples of eulogy’s as this will help you as you start this overwhelming process.
It will be painful but look through photos and it will help you with the grief you are feeling and help you to think and remember the good times you had together.
There can be several types of readings at your loved one’s funeral and they can all be equally special and fitting. Writing something personal allows you to express your feelings about them and can be a wonderful way of conveying your love and admiration for them.
Here are some popular non-religious readings taken from various sources on the internet:
Remember me with smiles not tears,
For all the joy through all the years.
Recall the closeness that was ours,
A love as “sweet” as fragrant flowers.
Don’t dwell on thoughts that cause you pain,
We’ll see each other once again.
I am at peace…try to believe,
It was my time…I had to leave.
But “what a view”, I have from here,
I see your face, I feel you near,
I follow you throughout the day,
You’re not alone along the way.
And when God calls you…you will be,
Right by my side…right here with me.
Till then, I’ll wait by heaven’s door,
We’ll be united…evermore!
To the living I am gone
To the sorrowful I will never return
To the angry I was cheated
But to the happy, I am at peace
And to the faithful I have never left.
I cannot speak but I can listen,
I cannot be seen but I can be heard.
So as you stand in a vast forest,
Gazing at the stars,
Remember me in your heart and in your thoughts
The memories of the times we loved
The memories of the time we shared.
For if you always think of me, I will have never gone.
We gather to remember the little things that made a special place in our heart.
To remember those happy times when we laughed
and those times when our hearts broke as one.
For who could put a price on memory?
We gather to share the pain
To hurt when you hurt without presuming that our pain is the same.
To cry when you cry and not try to hide or avoid our tears.
For who can ever take away the pain?
We gather to give the gift of grief
To stand beside you in silence and not be uncomfortable with your tears.
To allow you the gift of mourning this loss and not lose patience
For grief is God’s way of healing a broken heart.
The cares of the world concern me no longer
I have completed this life
My work is done,
My family is happy and healthy in their pursuits
I have loved much and well
To those I leave behind
I hope I will remain in their hearts as they will in mine
Thank you for taking such good care of me
And all of you who have been my friends, thank you for teaching me about life and about love.
They are not dead,
Who leave us this great heritage of remembering joy.
They still live in our hearts,
In the happiness we knew, in the dreams we shared.
They still breathe,
In the lingering fragrance, windblown, from their favourite flowers.
They still smile in the moonlight’s silver,
And laugh in the sunlight’s sparking gold.
They still speak in the echoes of the words we’ve heard them say again and again.
They still move,
In the rhythm of waving grasses, in the dance of the tossing branches.
They are not dead;
Their memory is warm in our hearts, comfort in our sorrow.
They are not apart from us, but part of us,
For love is eternal,
And those we love shall be with us throughout all eternity.
MW Funeral Directors
We have over 25 years of experience in the funeral industry and our focus is always providing you with a compassionate and caring service guiding you through the process and the difficult decisions to make when arranging a funeral for a loved one.
As a small, independent Funeral Directors we are able to spend as much time with you as you need, and we will be with you throughout the planning process. We know from experience that it is the bond of trust between family and funeral director that helps deliver a personal funeral that best befits the departed. On the day of the funeral, we will be dedicated to your family alone.
We help to plan and direct funerals for people of all faiths and beliefs or no religion at all, and we organise traditional burials and cremations, humanist funerals, and natural and green burials.
Please contact one of our compassionate and experienced team on 0117 950 4100 and they will be able to answer any questions you may have.
Experienced, Caring & Compassionate Funeral Directors in Bristol
A funeral marks the remembrance of a life. People gather who have been impacted by that life, as a sign of respect, love and mourning. It is an important occasion and should be treated as such. Funerals are an important part of the grieving process, providing a set date and time where those who have been left behind can express their grief, surrounded by their loved ones. With over 25 years of experience, MW Funeral Directors in Bristol understand the lasting significance of the funeral. We endeavour to provide a funeral planning service that supports the family and friends of the deceased, allowing them a day that meets their expectations and those of their loved ones. To speak to our team of local funeral directors in Bristol, contact us today on 0117 950 4100. Or come and visit us in our Westbury-on-Trym offices.
Making funeral arrangements can be a difficult, stressful process. Choosing a funeral company that will help make the process as smooth as possible is key. Planning a funeral service is made so much simpler with the support of an experienced funeral director who knows exactly what needs to be done, taking the burden away from grieving families. At MW Funerals, we offer a wide range of comprehensive funeral planning services to ensure the day is as special as possible.
Funeral Home – A Private Chapel Of Rest
We operate a peaceful chapel of rest for the temporary relocation of the deceased’s body, where family and friends can visit before the funeral, saying final goodbyes in a quiet setting. This is often the time where the immediate family can share final, intimate moments of goodbye. Many find that on the day of the funeral service, their minds are more on the running of the day and speaking to guests than on saying goodbye. To find out more about our funeral parlour, or to arrange for a visit, contact our reception team.
Simple, Affordable Funerals
The average funeral cost in Bristol is over £4,500, according to insurance provider SunLife. Costs have steadily increased over the last 15 years. It is predicted that this trend of rising funeral costs will continue. Some people may be eligible for help with funeral expenses, but many will be left to shoulder the costs alone. Many people are unwilling to invest in a ‘cheap funeral’, fearing that they will be doing a disservice to their loved one. At MW Funerals, we believe that everyone is entitled to a dignified, personal send off. Which is why we are dedicated to providing low cost funerals across Bristol, helping families plan a loving memorial without facing financial difficulty or feeling undue pressure. Our funerals start from £1,995, offering first class service and value for money combined.
Prepaid Funeral Plans
At MW Funeral Directors, we also offer a range of prepaid funeral plans. For those interested in planning their funeral in advance, we can provide different funeral packages to suit your wishes, with several payment options. Our funeral planning services can be tailored to suit your exact requirements. Contact us to find out more about our prepaid funeral plans and pricing.
Different Types of Funeral
We can cater for all types of funeral. Whether that be a religious ceremony, a humanist service, a non-traditional and even green funerals. Simply let us know your wishes and we will do our best to exceed your expectations.
If you’d like to arrange to speak with one of our funeral directors in Bristol, call today on 0117 950 4100. Our lines are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We are here to help you during this difficult time. We have helped hundreds of families remember their loved ones in beautiful, personal ceremonies that they are able to look back fondly on for years to come.
We also offer woodland funerals at our woodland cemetery in Earthcott Green, Bristol. To find out more, visit our website – Memorial Woodlands.